Our little guy is 273.931649 days old
Not sure how that decimal came about!
I am not sure what to say other than we are still waiting. I think I have been very patient over the last 18 months. WOW ~ I just realized that today is also 18 months since we made the decision to adopt from Vietnam. That means he was conceived around the time we were making the decision to adopt....I guess he was meant to be our son.
I have seen many other adoptive parents get really upset and negative throughout this process. I even had one "attack" me in a "support group" for having such a positive, rose colored glasses, half-full glass attitude. I waited 50 days longer for my CFC and I was never negative about it. I have been patient. All I have ever asked for was information and updates and my WONDERFUL caseworker has done that for us. I have told another PAP (prospective adoptive parent) that I often feel like she is caught in the middle. She understands our pain and impatience, but I often feel that she simply can't do anything about it. She puts up with a lot from us and we ARE grateful, even when we don't seem it!
I have seen many other adoptive parents get really upset and negative throughout this process. I even had one "attack" me in a "support group" for having such a positive, rose colored glasses, half-full glass attitude. I waited 50 days longer for my CFC and I was never negative about it. I have been patient. All I have ever asked for was information and updates and my WONDERFUL caseworker has done that for us. I have told another PAP (prospective adoptive parent) that I often feel like she is caught in the middle. She understands our pain and impatience, but I often feel that she simply can't do anything about it. She puts up with a lot from us and we ARE grateful, even when we don't seem it!
My point is that my glasses are cracked! We are looking at nearly 5 months since we first saw his face. When we signed 18 months ago, baby boys were WAITING for families. Things were running so much smoother. I agree that our government meant well with the changes that the instituted last Fall, but it has made this process MUCH harder and longer. Once we are able to file for his visa, we will most likely need to have a DNA test done to prove that it was his birthmother that brought him to the orphanage. I asked if we could do the test now, while we wait and we can't. We need the official request from the US Government. So we continue to wait.
I had hoped to have him home by Christmas. When we saw him in July, I thought it would be easy. Oh well. Now I pray we are filed and acknowledged by then. DNA test ordered and done would be icing. The next obstacle is Tet (Vietnamese New Year) when the country will shut down for awhile. Ticker on the right for that --->
I had hoped to have him home by Christmas. When we saw him in July, I thought it would be easy. Oh well. Now I pray we are filed and acknowledged by then. DNA test ordered and done would be icing. The next obstacle is Tet (Vietnamese New Year) when the country will shut down for awhile. Ticker on the right for that --->
Interesting thing...the woman that is in charge of subs for my employer called today because this was the day that they chose for the start of my FMLA leave. I had discussed with HR a couple of weeks ago that we were still months away from traveling and that I had explained that to the woman that will be my sub, but they still called. To think that when they chose this date, I thought we would be gone by now.
What I am holding onto is that he seems healthy and our orphanage is known for a low nanny to baby ratio, so he is being well taken care of. He was meant to be ours and we must be patient. NONE of our kids came to us without patience and faith....why would this one be any different?
What I am holding onto is that he seems healthy and our orphanage is known for a low nanny to baby ratio, so he is being well taken care of. He was meant to be ours and we must be patient. NONE of our kids came to us without patience and faith....why would this one be any different?
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